10 Types Of Guys To Avoid
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Sometimes, figuring out if a guy is right for us can feel like we’re going down a checklist, hoping to check off as many items as possible; does he have a sense of humor that you like? Is he kind? Are you attracted to him?
Much of our search when it comes to dating focuses on what’s right about the guy we’re seeing. We’re looking to count up how many of our desires in a boyfriend he matches up with.
But just as important as paying attention to what’s right with a guy? Looking at what’s not right—zeroing in on which qualities should give us pause. Just as we search for a certain type of guy we want to date, we should also have in our minds the types of guys we’ll want to avoid.
Here are 10 guys to avoid when you’re dating.
01 | The guy that’s “not ready for anything serious.”
It’s tempting to think we can change this guy’s mind—once he sees how wonderful you are, there’s no way he could not fall in love, right? But if he says right off the bat that he’s not looking for a relationship, believe him. Instead, find a guy that won’t pass up an opportunity to call you his girlfriend.
02 | The guy who lives a double life.
This guy seems like the perfect catch when, at church, he’s the most enthusiastic worship band member. But as soon as you’re alone with him, he starts talking marriage as a means to make his physical advances seem less pressure-filled and inappropriate.
03 | The guy who never grew up.
He makes you feel needed—which can be a good feeling… for a while, at least. But this guy never really grew up; he doesn’t know how to cook a decent meal, can’t do his laundry, and doesn’t understand basic hygiene. Soon, it becomes clear that he’s looking for a mom, not a girlfriend.
04 | The guy who mysteriously disappears.
When you have his attention, he’s all in. But every now and then, he’ll disappear and not answer your texts for a day or two, leaving you wondering if he’s just busy, or if he’s been kidnapped. Then, you’ll suddenly hear from him again, as if he didn’t leave you on read for three days—this is a cycle that doesn’t stop.
05 | The guy who’s always smarter than everyone else.
It doesn’t matter if he’s talking to a doctor, a professor, or an entrepreneur—in his mind, this guy is always the smartest person in the room. He’ll take any opportunity to overexplain, talk down, and show off his supposed intelligence, even if he knows very little about whatever he’s talking about.
06 | The guy with no work ethic or drive.
This guy can look one of two ways—he either lives with all the idealism in the world, but has no drive to actually make his dreams come true, or he lives with no fire, no goals he’s pursuing, and nothing he seems to want out of life. Either way, his directionlessness will being to weigh on you.
07 | The guy who calls every ex “crazy.”
Somehow, every girl he’s ever dated before was insane, and he was always the victim. This either says something about his poor taste in women, or it says something about his perception of himself—which tells him he’s always in the right.
08 | The guy who calls himself a “nice guy.”
Some guys truly are nice—but they don’t normally feel the need to say it. This guy reiterates time and time again just how “nice” he is, which makes you wonder if he actually is, or if he’s attempting to convince you.
09 | The guy who puts in no effort.
This guy never texts first, never plans a date, and never initiates hand-holding. He shows up to your dates dressed in sweats and an old shirt, with messy hair and no cologne on. He doesn’t make any conversation, but instead just responds to whatever conversation you create. He doesn’t bother trying to impress you—he lets you do all of the legwork.
10 | The guy that’s married to his job.
At first, you liked how driven this guy was, but eventually, you started to feel ignored. Work calls and emails will always take precedence, no matter what’s happening. He can’t pay much attention to you at all because he’s already in a committed relationship—with his job.